We are all lost, to one degree or another. In fact, one way to look at the purpose of our journey through life is, day by day, to find our way home – the ultimate and eternal home in the magnificent Source of Love and mutual love shared and growing forever! So, what I am going to say to you isn’t coming from a place where I can say, “I have found the path, and I want to share it with you.” It’s more like, “I have learned a lot from the paths I have taken. I’m still learning, but I do know some things, and have seen paths in my life I am glad I took, and paths I wish I had never gone down. But you, you are young, and I know, because you’ve told me, where you want to go, what you want to do, and become. But I’m also grieved to see you walk a path again and again that won’t lead you to your desired destination. You gotta change the path, and you know it.”
“The path you are on determines your destination.” This is something Andy Stanley shares in one of his talks, and it is profound. It fits with the biblical message that we reap what we sow. Andy says, “It doesn’t matter how much you WANT to go to Florida. If you hop in your car [on the east coast], and head north on Interstate 95, you’re never going to get to Florida.” It doesn’t matter how much you dream about Florida, wish you could get out of the cold, talk about what you will do in Florida, complain how much you hate how you are living up north and want to start again in the warmth of the sun down south. If you head north, you are never going to get there.
I think you see where I am going with this. I know you want that life you dream about. It’s such a good, free, happy life. Your goal is noble, right on target, and I’m proud of you for holding that up and saying, “I want to be this. I want this so much! I just don’t know how to get there!” We are all in this, and the paths we take to “get there” sometimes lead us off into the world of the lost even more. But we can always get back, and I believe there is a strong Infinite current in life that will lead us to that destination, as much as we allow ourselves to go with that flow – especially when we hit that dead end, and wonder what is going on.
But what I so badly want you to see is that the only way you are going to even start heading to where you want to be is for you to stop walking down the same path hoping for a different outcome. You’re never going to get it that way. Yes, sometimes that is incredibly hard, and you may find you can’t help finding yourself on that same path even when you so much want to take another. No problem. It happens to us all. But don’t fool yourself into thinking that you might catch that dream, or find that life you want, the people you want in your life, what you wish your were doing, who you are, if you don’t take that turn, even if it is just a baby step in a new direction. One step at a time does work. TAKE THE STEP! It will make such a difference in your life NOW.
It is said that insanity can be defined as, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” That’s a harsh saying, but it’s true. Life is too precious to waste living under this delusion we all believe at one time or another.” It’s a waste. You don’t get what you want. You don’t get out of what you so wished you could leave behind. You don’t end up where you so nobly wished to be. Your path determines your destination.
Take the turn, just as much as you are able, one day, one moment at a time, toward those awesome goals, and you will get there. You may not get exactly what you want or end up in the perfect world. (Florida isn’t perfect.) But you have a good chance you will, now that you are actually walking toward the direction you want to go. And believe me, you are going to be way happier, way more free, way more connected, and way more who you want to be.
Take the turn!